Another great quote:
“Freedom lies in being bold.”
– Robert Frost
To me, being bold means being yourself and showing up for who you are. To many times we try to be and do what we think other people want us to be and do. In the end we are not ourselves and people don’t like to be lied to.
I have had some great experiences where, while visiting with a group of friends or aquantancies someone decided to be bold and show up for who they really are and we ended up having an incredible experience. Mind if I share one with you?
Me and two other guys were hanging out one night. One of them was a good friend of mine and another was a mutual aquantance of ours. This mutual aquantance shared that he has this nervous facial tick that is making it really hard for him to be social. We both told him that in all honesty we really didn’t notice or didn’t think anything of it if we had. He found this quite surprising, since he always assumed everyone noticed it, and judged him based on that. That is when the magic happened.
I suggested that most people are too busy worring about their own issues to notice most other people’s issues. I admitted that I was working on not tilting my head to the side (like the RCA/Victor dog “Nipper”) when talking to someone, and was actually just correcting such a tip as he was sharing that.
Then my good friend smiled and admitted that he had a habbit of chewing on his lips when someone else was talking, and was sure everyone else could tell. We all looked at eachother and realized that we were in fact too caught up with our own “issues” to notice the things those we were talking to were sure we would notice about them.
This ended up being a great evening conversation and it was all a result of one person deciding to be bold and show up for who he was and ask the question that was really bothering him. In that moment of boldness we all were free from worrying about what other people thought about us, and now we all continue to enjoy freedom as a result of that boldness.
“Be bold and you will not only free yourselves, but also those around you.”