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Be Bold

Another great quote:

“Freedom lies in being bold.”
– Robert Frost

To me, being bold means being yourself and showing up for who you are.  To many times we try to be and do what we think other people want us to be and do.  In the end we are not ourselves and people don’t like to be lied to.

I have had some great experiences where, while visiting with a group of friends or aquantancies someone decided to be bold and show up for who they really are and we ended up having an incredible experience.  Mind if I share one with you?

Me and two other guys were hanging out one night.  One of them was a good friend of mine and another was a mutual aquantance of ours.  This mutual aquantance shared that he has this nervous facial tick that is making it really hard for him to be social.  We both told him that in all honesty we really didn’t notice or didn’t think anything of it if we had.  He found this quite surprising, since he always assumed everyone noticed it, and judged him based on that.  That is when the magic happened.

I suggested that most people are too busy worring about their own issues to notice most other people’s issues.  I admitted that I was working on not tilting my head to the side (like the RCA/Victor dog “Nipper”) when talking to someone, and was actually just correcting such a tip as he was sharing that.

Then my good friend smiled and admitted that he had a habbit of chewing on his lips when someone else was talking, and was sure everyone else could tell.  We all looked at eachother and realized that we were in fact too caught up with our own “issues” to notice the things those we were talking to were sure we would notice about them.

This ended up being a great evening conversation and it was all a result of one person deciding to be bold and show up for who he was and ask the question that was really bothering him.  In that moment of boldness we all were free from worrying about what other people thought about us, and now we all continue to enjoy freedom as a result of that boldness.

“Be bold and you will not only free yourselves, but also those around you.”
-Jim McKeeth

2 Comments

  1. JIM DONOHUE

    AS A CHILD, I HAD WHAT WAS CALLED A NERVOUS TICK.
    AY LEAST THAT IS WHAT THE CHILD PSYCHOLOGIST
    TOLD MY MOTHER WHEN SHE TOOK ME TO BE “ANALIZED”
    I WAS INTRODUCED TO COD LIVER OIL, AND
    SOME OTHER BLACK STICKY SUBSTANCE, BOTH ASSIGNED TO RELIEVE ME OF THESE FACIAL UPHEAVALS.
    IN TIME, WHEN I WAS REQUIRED TO INTERACT WITH ADULTS IN A WELL MANNERED FASHION,
    I WAS HIT WITH A DOUBLE WAMMY. SPEACH DISORDER.
    FOR SOME UNKNOWN REASON I WOULD
    BECOME TENSE WHEN TOO MUCH ATTENTION WAS BEING
    PAYED TO ME; BY INQUIRING ADULTS. YEARS LATER, MY
    OLDER BROTHER SAID IT WAS THE RESULT OF THE
    TENSION EXPERIENCED IN OUR HOUSEHOLD DUE TO MY
    FATHERS DRINKING HABITS.
    DURING HIGHSCHOOL YEARS, I DID MY BEST
    TO AVOID HAVING TO PERFORM ASSIGNMENTS IN FRONT
    OF THE CLASS. “FLASH !! BOY TURNS TO STONE”.
    AS A YOUNG ADULT, I AVOIDED SYMBOLS
    OF AUTHORITY, LIKE SCOWLING SUPERVISORS WHERE I
    WAS EMPLOYED AS AN APPRENTICE TOOLMAKER.
    THESE BURDENS WERE EVENTUALLY LIFTED
    WHEN I DECIDED TO EXPOSE MYSELF TO SITUATIONS
    AT MY JOB WHERE I WOULD BE FORCED TO INTERACT
    WITH OTHERS IN A BUSINESS LIKE MANNER , IT
    WORKED, AND PEOPLE HAVE BEEN UNABLE TO SHUT ME
    UP EVER SINCE. ALAS, SELF CONFIDENCE HAS IT’S
    REWARDS. HOWEVER, NOW I’M PUSHING 70, AND
    “THERE BACK”, I’M REFERRING TO THE FACIAL
    PERFORMANCE. NOT A PROBLEM, IF ANYONE MAKES A
    COMMENT. I’LL BLAME IT ON MY YOUTH.
    INCIDENTLY, ROBERT FROST, OUR ESTEEMED
    AMERICAN POET-LAUREATE SUFFERED A PRONOUNCED
    FACIAL TICK IN THE FORM OF JAW SWITCH FROM LEFT
    TO RIGHT, BLESS HIM, I’M IN GOOD COMPANY.
    “FEAR STRIKES OUT” REGARDS, JIM

  2. Tim

    Sometimes when talking to people my nose twitches above the right nostril. I only found out this when my mum told me, but my sister has noticed it and sometimes points it out. I try to look away from people when they talk to me!!

    I think it happens with conversations where i either do not believe what someone is saying, when i think someone is being obtuse, or when someone is describing something that i think could be described better

    I wish my nose did not twitch!

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